Three Myths.

There are three myths in this world that I don't believe in:

1) There is one soul mate who is perfect for us out there in the world.

2) Love at First Sight.

3) Love is all you need for marriage.

I'm partially not very sure why I'm writing about this, coming from a 17 year old girl who has absolutely nought experience in the Relationships Field, let alone the Marriage Field. All I really know is unrealistic fantasies and sugar-sweet dreams.

But after reading a considerable number of romance books between last year till now, I have to draw a line at those three myths up there.

First, one soul mate. Seriously? Out of the gezillions of people out there running around the globe, there's only one for you? And it just coincidentally happens to be that handsome, sexy, strapping young man, who just happens to be every other woman's soul mate?
Neh, all that soul-mate-perfect-person-for-me doesn't work for me. I believe in finding someone who is compatible for you, not perfect, but compatible, and tying up all those other loose ends along the way.

Second, Love at First Sight. Once again, that woman you fell in love at first sight, just happens to be gorgeous, blond, with some rather noticeable assets? I can't fathom the possibility of falling in love with someone within a few weeks of courting, let alone a few days. It's something I stand stoically by that just can't happen. That's why I tend to roll my eyes whenever I fall upon one of those romance stories of falling in love within a month tops.

I mean, you don't even know that person. What their interests are, their likes and dislikes, what their childhood was like and etc.
Even in cases of arranged marriages, there are accounts of the married couple not falling in love immediately, but gradually over years when they get to know each other better.

Third, I would be hard put to elaborate so much on this point, that being that love is all you need for a successful marriage, because duh~ I've never been married before and I don't even know the first thing about what a sacrifice marriage is, only heard the stories. But I suppose as much I can surmise from it, is that love really isn't enough. Soon enough, all that honeymoon lovey-dovey heated nights are gonna fade away, and life takes it's long postponed place again.

There's so much adapting to each other's lifestyle to be done, so much compromise to be taken. It's living with another person who isn't your family, and that up until now you always wanted to appear at your best for them, but once you live together, you know that ain't gonna happen. There are bound to be mornings with bad breath, messy bed hair, farting at inopportune moments etc. Were you rooted in reality when you fell in love, or did you see it through rose-tinted glasses?

As a conclusion, one day I really do want to fall in love, and I do admit all these romance books have addled my brain a bit of expecting too much. But at least I am quite aware of myself not to go to the extremes, right? Right?

Nevertheless, I'll hold by these three rules, and play safe by them :]